Stop Screaming Inside The House: Follow These Tips

Screaming indoors is the daily bread for many parents, especially when they reach the limit and no longer know how to control situations involving their children. Nevertheless, even if you get to this point, you can eliminate this problem and achieve a peaceful and respectful home environment.

When a child becomes familiar with the screams and anger of his parents, he gradually stops reacting to these behaviors and begins to develop a “defense” against the way you talk to him. Follow these tips to stop screaming and still be able to handle the situation.

Stop yelling around the house by developing self-control

• Try to always keep a moderate and respectful tone of voice when addressing your children. The best way to get children to talk to you in the right tone is to start by setting an example and speaking calmly and respectfully, even when the situation drives you out of your mind.

• Learn to manage your emotions in a healthy way. You are the role model that your children will follow and this will help teach them how to master their feelings and reactions. Children learn empathy when you show them the right behaviors and habits. A child learns to address you in the wrong tone when you do the same.
• Remember that children behave like children and, as such, they are people with immature behavior, because their job is simply to be children. The cerebral cortex only develops completely in adulthood and, while this happens, it is your job to accompany them during those moments of anger and explain to them how to control themselves and how to live more peacefully.
• Show them that you understand them when they express their feelings. If children understand that you understand how they feel in a certain situation, they will know that it is not wrong to have those emotions. Understanding makes it more difficult for a child to reach their limit and have inappropriate reactions.

• Don’t feel resentment. If you have something to say or have had a difficult day, relax before interacting with them. Accumulating negative emotions and thoughts only increases irrational episodes involving your children and other family members. Try to keep a certain balance to be able to take the reins of the situation.
• Remember to consider your children’s point of view. When you decide to impose a rule or correct a behavior, never forget to consider the point of view of your children. Make sure that your children want to respect your rules and that they don’t feel compelled to do so because you simply say so.

• Remain silent when you are angrier. If you are emotionally altered, avoid reacting negatively and if you can’t control your words, staying silent is the best choice. Take deep breaths, think of something relaxing and avoid saying something that could hurt your children when you are upset. Words can have a big negative impact on your children if you are not careful.
• Avoid stressful situations. If you know that the time to leave the house in a hurry in the morning is the cause of a bad situation, prepare things the day before to be able to face the first hours of the day calmly. If, on the other hand, you know that an argument can arise when your children are doing their homework, think about different ways of dealing with them, or ask your family for help.

• Do some physical activity with your family. Exercise is one of the most effective ways to channel your tension and that of your family. After half an hour of exercise, your body and mind will be much more relaxed and able to live in peace with others. By exercising with your family every day, you will improve your relationship with your children and your conversations in difficult times.
• Get away when necessary. If you have reached the limit and you know that you may be upset more than you should, get away from your children a little to have time to meditate a little and to tackle the problem objectively. Even in these cases, avoid saying something when you are not in full control of yourself, as you could have unwanted consequences with the words you speak. Breathe deeply, calm down, and step back a little if you feel the need.