The Hope That Rainbow Children Bring Us

The rainbow baby is the baby who comes into the world healthy and strong after a mother has suffered a gestational or perinatal loss. In addition to  happiness, rainbow babies bring hope and rebirth with which a family can recover after the loss of a child.

A topic that is not usually talked about is abortion, the death of these children who were never born, or who for whatever reason flew away earlier than expected, becoming stars that will live forever in the hearts of their parents.

Many mothers sometimes have to face social ignorance, the insensitivity of those who believe that losing a 10-year-old is not the same as losing one who has never lived.

It should be clear from the start is that every loss is important, it is not something that can be compared, and everyone experiences it in a devastating way. The pain of losing a baby, even after a miscarriage, is experienced in many different ways. There will be families who face it with courage, and mothers who will fall into a state of profound helplessness to the point of falling into depression.

The star children, those children who are born and die inside the mother’s womb, are beings who existed, who fought to live and who wanted to grow up, but to whom fate has denied this opportunity. The Rainbow Children, those who carry the hope after a loss, are not there to replace the lost brother.

Each child has his place in the heart of a father or mother, he is unique and will be unique even if life takes him away prematurely.

The star children and our personal storms

Miscarriages and gestational or perinatal losses are more common than we think. So much so that it is essential that there is some sort of psychological protocol and that we care about the well-being of these families and especially the mothers.

• Each woman will experience this loss in her own way, but it is necessary that she be able to live the pain totally, accompanied by family members  and with the support of suitable professionals.
• Today more and more women are undergoing unsuccessful attempts to get pregnant. When it finally happens, not only one miscarriage can occur, but more than one.
• This experience can be very complicated. The star children leave and begin to shine above giving us their light, but for a while, what the mother will feel will be a storm, the darkness and even the maddening feeling that “she herself is responsible” for the loss. suffered. A thought that must be faced and demolished.
  

Rainbow children: hope in a face, light in the heart

The pain of losing a baby can be long or short, but it will always be carried in the heart. It is a pain that many mothers face in private and that they will learn to live with.

For a while, one thing that often happens in couples is the refusal to try again.  However, little by little hope and desire will grow stronger than fear and the desire to become parents will arise again. Thus the miracle happens and the rainbow child arrives, who puts an end to the storm and brings the glow after darkness.

Having a healthy and beautiful baby cares, comforts and at the same time recomposes the mother. That child hunts the gray days to color the days with a thousand shades, a thousand sensations that allow us to embrace life again and that chubby creature, eager to conquer the world.

The following are very clear to the dads and mothers of rainbow babies:

• The rainbow child is not here to replace the star child.
• The child who was not born or lost prematurely will always have his place in the family. Parents will always carry in their hearts the umbilical cord, golden and strong, of that child who has gone too soon.
• The pregnancy after the loss of the star child is experienced differently. The fear is there, and in some moments it is common to panic. The ideal in these cases is to ensure that there is good communication between the couple and the doctors.

• The birth of the rainbow baby is also a way to honor the star baby. That healthy and strong child will allow us to show the love in us, the one we couldn’t wait to offer to the other child.

We will do our best for both of us, for what we have with us and for what is watching us from a star and is taking refuge in the center of our heart.